Tree Logo  Nuggets 47:   Reconnecting
"We are going home for the holidays and I dread it!"  This from one of my students, years ago.  "Why the dread?," I asked.  "Because Dad and I don't get along and each Christmas is an ordeal."  I wonder how many people can relate to that.
"We have been studying the life of Jesus," I said.  "What does Jesus say to do if someone has hurt us?"  "Go talk to them about it," she replied.  "And forgive them."  "And what does Jesus tell us to do if we have hurt somebody?"  "Go make it right with them," she said.  "But that's so hard!"
"Following Jesus means obeying him even in the hard things," I replied.  "The most costly obedience brings the greatest blessings.  Why don't you go home this time determined to resolve things with your father?  Don't attack him or show anger.  That would close him up.  You could start with something like "Dad, I am sad that there is this strain between us.  I want so much to have a good relationship with you.  I know it is not all you.  I am sorry for my part.  Can we talk about things?  I believe Jesus wants us to."
The student came back elated.  "I don't have to dread the holidays any more!  Once Dad and I started talking, we both had a chance to say things we had needed to say for a long time.  We have a whole new relationship.  It's the best Christmas we have had in years."

Matthew 18:15;  5:23,24;  Romans 12:18-21;  Galatians 6:1,2;  2 Timothy 2:24-26;  Matthew 6:12,14,15;  18:21-35;  Mark 11:25;  Ephesians 4:26,27,31-5:2;  Colossians 3:12,13;  Malachi 4:5,6;  John 8:36


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