Proverbs 17:21 & 25, “He that begetteth a fool doeth it to his sorrow: and the father of a fool hath no joy.” “A foolish son is a grief to his father, and bitterness to her that bare him.” Since these two statements are true we must determine not to raise fools. Is there anything that a parent can do to make sure that his children do not live foolish lives? The answer is, “Yes.”
Proverbs 22:15 tells us, “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.” God makes it clear in this passage that we do not have to raise fools. In the early 1970’s two college students did a study to find out why so many children from religious homes leave their religious heritage when they grew older. They came up with the following conclusions. There are four types of parents.
1. The neglectful parent
They have no discipline and no love.
2. The permissive parent
These parents had all love and no discipline.
3. The authoritarian parent
They had no love and all discipline.
4. The authoritative parent
They had a balance between love and discipline.
If we want to raise children who are not fools, we must have a balance of love and discipline in our life. They must know their limits. They must also know that when we put limitations on them we do it because we love them. Learning to be an authoritative parent will allow us to raise children who are not fools.
Let me give you four DON’TS and then one DO.
1. Don’t be too severe. The discipline should fit the crime.
2. Don’t put up with whining and crying. It is socially unacceptable.
3. Don’t be indulgent. Don’t give into every whim or appetite the child has.
4. Don’t accept direct defiance. Rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft.
Do practice biblical discipline. Learn to use the rod of correction the way the Word of God teaches. Proper spanking will drive foolishness from the heart of your child.